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Divorce

Divorce occurs when a marriage does not succeed. The end of a marriage can feel like a relief. It can also be extremely stressful. Even the partner who chooses to leave may feel a range of emotions. They may experience grief, guilt, anger, confusion, fear, shame, and anxiety. If children are involved, the stress of divorce may be more intense.

 

Between 40 and 50% of married couples in the United States get a divorce. Partners may choose divorce for many reasons. Couples often cite multiple reasons rather than one single problem.  It is impossible to predict with 100% accuracy if a marriage will end. But there are some signs that indicate it might.

 

There are many changes that you will face when getting divorced.  Some common changes divorce brings include:

 

  • Worry about finances, employment, or housing
  • Sadness over losing friends or family members as a result of the divorce
  • Feelings of guilt and being emotionally overwhelmed. Thoughts about how divorce could affect any children may cause these feelings.
  • Grief over losing a familiar lifestyle or life partner. This may hit hard if one partner did not want to be divorced.
  • Stress from going through the legal process or divorce, especially if children are involved. Stress can also occur as family members adapt to new routines and develop new support networks.

 

 Divorce typically is complicated if you have children, it can even be years before certain aspects of it can affect you.  Things linger, and we need to find ways to manage through that. Children are often impacted by a parent’s divorce. These effects may cause mental health issues. Divorce may increase chances of anxiety, depression, self-harm, and suicide in children and teens. You can help avoid these issues by watching your child’s reactions.

 

Divorce recovery is a process. Adjusting to changes that occur as a result of a divorce can take time. Part of the process is recognizing that changes will be certain. Newly divorced people will come to realize their lives will be affected. The lives of those around them may also change in profound ways.

 

Many feelings occur as a result of divorce. A few of them include:

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  • Anxiety
  • Guilt
  • Depression
  • Stress

 

Some signs a child is struggling with a parent’s divorce include:

 

  • Acting out in school or at home
  • Shutting down or withdrawing
  • Changes in usual behavior
  • Increased rule-breaking or obedience
  • Angry or irritable mood
  • Signs of self-harm
  • Displaying much more or much less emotion than usual

 

Once you notice this behavior, you can address it. Some ways to address your child’s reaction to your divorce include:

 

  • Asking open-ended questions about how they feel
  • Answering any questions, they have in an age-appropriate way
  • Making sure they feel safe and secure throughout the process
  • Letting them know that no matter what happens, you will be there for them

 

Keep in mind that even if your child wanted the divorce (because of an unhealthy situation at one, etc) there is still a transition period to go through.  If your child is having trouble with your divorce, our pediatric counselors could help. We can provide a safe setting for your child to share their thoughts, feelings, and worries.  We specialize in children therapy, we focus on where your child is impacted and help them through their challenges to get to a better place.  Call us at Cameron Pediatrics today to schedule your initial consultation.

 

 

 

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